S-U-M-M-E-R Tips from Positive Directions

Positive Directions would like to remind parents that summer vacation means many teens are looking forward to more free time and less responsibility. For precisely this reason, the summer months can present new challenges for parents.Here’s a list of simple things parents can say and do to help their kids stay alcohol and drug free.

1. Set rules:  Let your child know that under-age drinking is unacceptable. The majority of kids say that upsetting their parents or losing the respect of family and friends is one of the main reasons they don’t drink or use other drugs. Set limits with clear consequences for breaking them. Praise and reward good behavior.

2. Understand and communicate: Take time to learn the facts about underage drinking and talk to your teen about its harmful health and social effects on young users.

3. Make sure you know where your teen is: Know where your teen will be and what they will be doing during unsupervised time. Research shows that teens with unsupervised time are more likely to engage in risky behaviors such as underage drinking, sexual activity and cigarette smoking.

4. Make sure you know who your teen is with: Get to know your teens friends and their parents by inviting them over for dinner or talking with them at your teens soccer practice, dance rehearsal or other activities. Stay in touch with the adult supervisors of your child (camp counselors, coaches, employers).

5. Engage your teen in summer activities:  Enroll your child in a supervised summer camp, educational program, or a summer sports league. Research shows that teens who are involved in constructive, adult-supervised activities are less likely to drink or use drugs

6.Reserve time for family:  Spend time together as a family regularly.

For more tips on talking with your teen during the summertime or anytime visit:


Parent Program with Matt Bellace, Ph.D. Speaker & Comedian on May 17th

Parent Program for the Weston Community :

Come to “Supporting Your Teen in Making Positive Choices” on May 17th at 7PM in the Weston Library Community Room.

Dr. Bellace is author of A Better High: A Humorous Look at Getting High Naturally, Everyday. He has a Ph.D in clinical neuropsychology and over 15 years of speaking and stand-up comedy experience. As a comedian , he has appreared on truTVs The Smoking Gun Presents and can be heard on Sirius XMs comedy channels.

Sponsored by WHSADAP and WYS, Dr. Bellace will provide examples of how to communicate effectively about responsibility, healthy coping skills and alcohol and drug use and he will present current research on adolescent brain development and answer questions.

For more information check out the program flyer:MAY 17 Matt Bellace Flyer

Great Assembly at Weston High School: Matt Bellace

How to Get High Naturally: L.E.A.D.

a. Lean on Healthy People for Support,
b. Express Yourself in a Healthy Way,
c. Achieve Natural Highs, and
d. Don’t Be Afraid to Take A Stand

The Power of Parents: Positive Directions Provides some Great Information

Did you know…

  • Parents who had clear discussions with their children around the risks of underage drinking before the age of 10, had children who were less likely to initiate alcohol use early.
  • Children who drink before the age of 15 are 4 times more likely to develop a lifelong dependency on alcohol.
  • It is illegal to allow minors to possess alcohol or “host” underage drinking parties.
  • 65% of teenagers report they get their alcohol from family & friends.
  • Alcohol used during adolescence may affect brain development.

To view the full “The Power of Parents” brochure with parenting tips, information on alcohol & the teenage brain and other resources, please visit Positive Directions website:www.positivedirections.org

Detective Carl Filsinger Answers Questions on Underage Drinking

Detective Carl Filsinger, Weston Police Department moderates Weston’s eWatch Yahoo Group:

Q. Can parents legally buy a drink for their own under 18 child in a restaurant? Offer a glass of wine at home? And what about a child who is 18, but not 21 yet?
A restaurant cannot serve anyone under the age of 21. A parent may serve a glass of wine to their own children only while at home. They cannot serve anyone under the age of 21 while in their home. They are criminally and civilly responsible.

Q. If a parent suspects that their teen is drinking and driving, can they ask the police to pull him/her over and administer a sobriety test? If the test is positive, can the consequences be modified to avoid going to court, as I understand it is very costly for the parents?

A person can be placed on a breathalyzer at the police department only after there was probable cause to make a motor vehicle stop (a violation) and after a field sobriety test, a field investigation and an interview with the person who was arrested for DWI. To be placed on the Breathalyzer, the person has to be in police custody i.e. under arrest.

A parent can tell if their child has been drinking and driving as their breath (a slight hint is enough), body odor, motor skills, speech, and appearance are all signs that you will be able to notice.

I recommend that the issue not be discussed when observed but at a time when all minds are clear. There will be less chance for a difficult confrontation.

Also, check the motor vehicle department home page about what a parent can do with respect to an underage person’s driver’s license.

Remind your teen: driving a motor vehicle in Connecticut is a privilege not a right.

10 Resolutions That Show Your Kids You Care

From the Partnership at Drugfree.org

  1. Teach your children to trust you by seeing you as a role model.
  2. Be patient, not just tolerant. Apologize when you make a mistake or do something you regret.
  3. Ask teens what they need from you – and do whatever you can to meet those needs.
  4. Listen to your teens, a lot. Avoid interrupting.
  5. Teach your children about ethics, values and principles they can apply in choices and decision making.
  6. Help them discover the feeling of gratitude, not just to say thank you.
  7. Keep the promises you make. If you do not keep your word, acknowledge that. Help your teen understand the circumstances or choices that precipitated the change in your plans.
  8. Answer your teen’s questions and be consistent. When you notice behavioral changes in them, make yourself available and encourage them to talk about what is going on in their life.
  9. Be understanding when they have a difficult time and let them know you will love them no matter what.
  10. Be diligent. Have ongoing conversations with your kids about the risks of drugs and alcohol.

Best Wishes for a safe, happy and healthy New Year

New York Times: Drinking, Driving and Paying

Excellent essay on Drinking & Driving:

Drinking, Driving and Paying
Published: December 3, 2010
The consequences and calculations of being over the legal limit.

Here’s what can happen: You attend a small dinner party at your brothers house with your 80-year-old mother, your visiting 74-year-old second cousin from Holland and assorted other family members. As per family custom, you enjoy hors d’oeuvres and several glasses of wine over a lovely meal full of conversation and laughter.

Around 9 o’clock, after a couple of small cups of coffee, and a little more wine, a thimbles worth of Scotch, you prepare to leave, and do so. Ten minutes later, on a quiet country road near a small town, you notice flashing blue lights behind you; you stop, and you are spoken to by a young officer who asks if you have been drinking.

Click link to continue reading…


In The News: Caffeine Alcohol Drinks Unsafe

We are sharing the latest news on caffeinated alcoholic beverages

Click on this link for a recent article from CNN:


Red Ribbon Week October 25-29, 2010

ADAP YLC greet WHS Students during Red Ribbon Week 2010

Voluntary Action Center Awards ADAP Board Member & Youth Representatives

The Voluntary Action Center of Mid-Fairfield (VAC), a program of the Human Services Council, celebrated National Volunteer Week at its Annual
Volunteer Recognition Reception on April 29th at Norfield Congregational Church in Weston.  Weston’s First Selectman, Gayle Weinstein was present
to hand out the awards to ADAP Board members Karen Sitney, Daniel Goldberg & Ross Karlan. Samantha Seath & Khadija Lalani also received recognition for their efforts.

Gayle Weinstein presents VAC award to Karen Sitney

Great Prom Information from TimeToTalk.Org

This information is from http://www.timetotalk.org

Here’s What You Can Do to Help Keep Prom Goers and New Graduates Safe:

  • Know Your Teens’ Plans and tell them to update you if the itinerary changes so you’re aware of their whereabouts.
  • Check In With Them Via Text  they are more likely to reply, since it’s discreet. You can send messages like “Hope ur having a gr8 time!” or “U OK?” before and after the dance.
  • Trust Your Teens and resist the urge to hover. You’ve filled them in on the rules and the risks chances are they got the message.

A national new study of 11th and 12th grade students confirmed that teens don’t recognize the dangers of driving on prom and graduation night, even though they think their peers may be more likely to drink on these occasions. Each year, approximately 5,000 young people under the age of 21, die as a result of underage drinking: 1,900 deaths from motor vehicle crashes, as well as hundreds from other injuries such as falls, burns and drowning.

  • What’s Happening ADAP


    YWC Parent Meeting and YWC Middle School Changes-see below

    March 11, 2019 7pm
    Weston Town Hall Annex
    To signup please visit:

    (First Monday of each month at the Weston Public Library)
    Grades 7 & 8 Meeting time 5:30pm-6:30pm
    Grades 9-12 Meeting Time 7pm-9pm

    2018/2019 Meeting Dates: Oct. 1, Nov. 5, Dec. 3, Jan. 7, Feb. 4, Mar. 4, Apr. 1, May 6, June 3 (possible make-up or end of year party depending on school calendar). Meetings will be held in the  Community Room at the Weston Public Library.


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